Like many of you, I also came to this crossroads when I got pregnant with my first child. But at that time, I was not ready to leave my career. So my decision making focused on how to make it work as a career mom. But then my son turned out to be sickly, and so I was back to the same crossroad. This time, the force to be a stay at home parent is more urgent than the first. My friend Marie has a different scenario. She immediately decided to be a stay at home mom (SAHM) when she learned that she was pregnant. But throughout her journey as a SAHM, she battled with mental and emotional issues. And so she felt that going back to work will help her.
But how do we decide whether to be a stay at home mom or a working mom?
3 Questions To Ask Whether To Be A Stay At Home Parent Or A Working Mom
Can You Afford It?
This is a tricky question, and there is no one answer for it. This will depend on where you are right now. Whether the kids are still young or are almost to college. And how about the status of your savings. When doing the math, you will realize that you will be able to cut back on expenses as a SAHM. But you will also significantly lose one income. Don’t stop in the “we can’t afford it” response though. Push your envelope and think of ways to augment the loss of your income. The internet has offered a more extensive option for women. Businesses can be done at home, and so does work. It is an option that you might want to look at.
What Is Your Career Path?
Let’s be real on this one. When stay at home parents return to the corporate world, they face the competition of much younger seekers. They are fresh out of college with newer skills to offer. And they are more idealistic and passionate. The same is true for moms who are desiring to return to work after a period of being a SAHM. Career pathing does not only rely on experience -though. This is where education or training can save you. Plan and take the necessary steps to get continuous learning. This can be done through distance education or out of pocket training.
Child Care And Family Values
The most important people that would affect your decision will be your spouse and your children. How will daddy cope-up with the single earner for the family? Or who will take care of the children when both mommy and daddy are at work?
Different situations have led us to the same crossroad. And yet, there was no one correct answer. And so I’d like to say that your decision is the best one for your family. You will always be the perfect mom for your children, whether you are a stay at home or a working mom.
At the end of the day, we only do what is best for our children.