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Discipline Or Child Abuse?

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Values are what separates good people from bad people. It is our standard of what is wrong and what is right. And these values are taught and instilled through our childhood from our parent’s discipline. Discipline is a system of values that parents teach to their kids. Often, emotions are high during a period of discipline. It can either be anger, sadness, tension, and even tears. But discipline is an essential component of a child’s development. It helps them develop emotional health that promotes motivation, self-control, personality, and decision-making. All of these make them socially and emotionally mature individuals in the future.

Defining Discipline Versus Punishment

Some parents think that punishment is a form of discipline. The truth is, the regulation doesn’t always have to use punishment. Punishment is only a means to support a parent’s discipline system. It usually comes in hand with rewarding to either negate bad behavior or reinforce positive behavior. This is according to the Operant Theory of BF Skinner. The theory revolves around rewards and punishments, also called by BF Skinner as positive and negative reinforcement. This means that we can strengthen the type of behavior we want from others through punishment and reward.

However, experts warn parents about the use of reward and punishment as a system of discipline. They say that it can be counterproductive when expected penalties are not given for undesirable behaviors. Or if rewards are not appreciated by the child. The most important factor when thinking about reward and punishment for discipline is the outcome. Rewards should reinforce positive behavior, and punishment should decrease the likelihood of an adverse reaction. Some parents who can use this type of discipline system can reward and punish by merely looking at a child. This is achieved by ensuring that the family values are the same for everyone, including the parents. The family should have similar values and respect for each other.

When Does Discipline Become Child Abuse

Parents know that discipline is also hard for them because of emotions involved, especially when correcting bad behavior from a child. And sometimes, the fear of crossing the line between discipline and child abuse prevents parents from implementing their discipline system. Intended punishment may be compromised and will reinforce bad behaviors instead. To be able to know the difference between discipline and child abuse, a parent should consider the intention of their actions. In many court proceedings, when determining child abuse, the court determines if the parent has the intention to hurt the child. Because discipline usually ends before an injury happens to a child.

An example of this particular scenario is when parents inflict injury to a child, such as bruises, fractures, or when the child gets traumatized. Discipline is intended to teach a child about the right behaviors. When parents punish a child or hurt a child for the intention of instilling fear rather than teaching, then this is classified as child abuse. Also, a punishment that is not appropriate for a child’s age is child abuse. And even punishment because of unrealistic expectations from a child is considered child abuse.

How Do Parents Establish a Healthy Discipline System

While the word discipline system poses the feeling of scientific methodology, it is a lot easier. It only means that discipline constitutes consistency and several ways to impart lessons to a child. And it should never be hard because your values are what you impart to your children. A problem will only arise if the parent has their own behavioral and emotional issues needing therapy to heal. But otherwise, when a family has learned values and acts harmoniously, discipline becomes less forceful and peaceful.

Overall, the value you give yourself as a parent is what translates to your children. Thus, it’s crucial to invest in your wellbeing. When parents have an unhealthy outlook, have difficulty building relationships, have a negative self-image, and unmet emotional needs, it becomes easy to cross the boundaries of child abuse. An article by MummyJene blog entitled Mental Health Article Dedicated for Mothers says, “mummies, you are important.” The article teaches moms about self-care as a means to protect mental health and prevent mom burnt-out. It also says that when a mom intentionally takes care of herself, she is investing in her family’s happiness.

Jene See
the authorJene See
A Home-based Entrepreneur and Blogger For me, being a home-based entrepreneur, parent and blogger has been quite an experience. Here’s how I got started on it all. Where I’ve been Becoming a blogger and a hardcore, home-based entrepreneur wasn’t exactly a planned career action for me. I can almost say I didn’t see it coming. It all started when I got pregnant with my first child. Back then, I was still working as a flight attendant, and I have to admit that I really loved my job. But when that baby came on board, I decided that I wanted to be as involved in my child’s life as I could possibly be. Once I’d made my decision, I swung into action. I quit my job and quickly made plans for a new (and different) life with the baby in mind. My foray into the glamorous world of entrepreneurship and blogging was a little more abrupt. This started a lot more recently.   I first came into contact with these products sometime around two years ago. In 2018, my aunt-in-law would be the first person to preach to me the wonders of Aulora Kodenshi. I confess that I was very skeptical back then. As I mentioned earlier, I didn’t see myself as an entrepreneur (or even a blogger for that matter). I felt I was comfortable in my role as a housewife and that picking up endeavors like that was for people who had more money to “waste.” I decided to continue to keep my focus as a good mother and an ideal housewife. The plan was, if I kept feeding my family good food and making sure that they all exercised regularly, there wouldn’t ever be a need to buy any of the products my husband’s aunt talked to me about. As it turned out, I’d not end up buying the products; I’d also become one of its most vocal advocates. How I Got Here Our second child got a case of eczema when she was about 18 months old. Ever since that time, every so often, she’d have a rather severe outbreak. The doctors would always tell us it was nothing serious, nothing to bother about, and we believed them for the most part. A reason for this was that almost like clock-work, she’d always get better after every 3-6 months. All of this changed though in February 2019. She had an outbreak, and we thought it was normal until she scratched so hard she drew blood. We tried everything to no avail. Frustrated, I decided to try SHIRUTO, one of the many products from BE International. In no time at all, the eczema and even the scars cleared up. I was so excited, I took to my social media page to share my joy, and that’s how I got into blogging and entrepreneurship. Plans for the Future I’m happy with where I am right now. I have a healthy family with a career I want to see grow. I don’t conform to the classic stay-at-mom routine of waking early in the morning. I do my best work at night when everyone’s happy and rested. The goal is to continue to remain healthy and inspire everyone around me to be free and keep those positive vibes flowing strong!

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